Boy has this been a week, if I ever need to go into hiding or live under a rock I definitely got all my social outings in for a while.
This weekend was nuts! Here is how it went…..
Thursday – NaTa’s birthday at Rock Bar
It was a blast! A hodgepodge of people from different groups (Which I LOVE!) but I couldn’t believe that I was out till 1:00am on a Thursday! It was a fun time filled with dancing to 70’s and 80’s songs as well as good conversations!
Friday – Dinner at Steuben’s, Code 3 to see Mike Maurer’s Band and bar hopping from there….
It was Luisa and I for dinner which hit the spot for both of us, then we headed over to Code 3 to listen to Mike play, where Kim joined up with us, but after about an hour we headed out on the town….. we did a lot of walking in and out of bars. I am trying to remember all the places that we went that night, but it was all a blur of fun between bars, dancing, lounging and conversations.
I do have to say that the best part of my night was reconnecting with my Friend Luisa. In the past couple of weeks we seemed to have a falling out. Were we used to email each other 1-10 times daily to nothing at all. Every time we tried to talk, it was like anything that I said she would get upset with me….so of course after some time I distanced myself from her, which I hating doing. But after that night, we had a chance to reconnect, to tell each other what was really going on in our lives/heads. I learned that with Luisa I need to just shut up and listen and not respond (unlike I have been doing). It was just really nice to sit down with a good friend and listen and talk and go to bed feeling just a little bit better.
Saturday – Um hello, St. Patties day weekend! What more do I need to say?!
I joined Luisa and Kim at Maloney’s (they had been downtown for a couple of hours prior to me) for some food and beer, well, it was my turn to start and their turn to sober up a little bit). We went from there to Old C’s to Fado’s which was having a large outdoor event with tents and bands. We stayed there till about 5:00 pm then I ran into a co worker and I decided to stay because I really wanted to have a great time! And I did! It turned into a larger group and we went from hanging out with a bunch of drunks to going dancing and then battling it out at Uno while waiting for food at Old C’s.
While normally this was a group of people that I wouldn’t hang out with, due to our positions at the company but I was really thrilled that I was able to spend time with them. I think I really enjoy learning about people and finding out who they truly are.
Its funny…. my astrological sign has always said that I was a social person but I personally have been so shy that I had never had strong social skills or social circle. The funny thing about it all is that I have heard the same "line" that I have heard for years and I need to figure out how to break it.
Anytime that I have talked with someone that I just got to know or had a great conversation with, they tell me that "You aren’t as bad/mean/bitchy as I thought you would be" or "Gosh, you are so intimidating to talk to". What is that supposed to mean?! So how do I get rid of that "stereotype"? I laugh, I joke, I smile….how can I be intimidating? I’d like to believe that I am a great conversationalist and that "I am one of the nicest people you will know" but obviously I am wrong.
So my question is … What do I need to change about myself to make me seem more approachable?
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