Yes… Richard Coulter Reyes and Kristen Elizabeth Kady are officially engaged! We had such a wonderful time that day that he knew that today was the day. He gave me a proposal that I will never forget…. He did it in true Coulter fashion! After the scotch, I knew he wanted to propose but was too nervous to ask. In the end, it was like we both proposed to each other, which made it even more special. The night ended in us dancing under the moonlight, on the bridge next to our hotel. I couldn’t have asked for a better time…..
Now, I know this may seem like a giant surprise to a lot of you, but do know that we have been talking about getting married for about 6 months, it was just a matter of time that we could actually be together, in person for us to be engaged. I know it should be joyous and special occasion and I should be spreading the news to all my family members, but I am too scared. I had enough people poo pooing our relationship when we first began, why tell everyone that we decided to get married only to get the return comment, of “oh….”. No excitement, no thought to my feelings. Just a cold hearted reply. I admit it, I am terrified to tell people in my family for what they might think. I already have my little brother being “skeptical” which made me cry on my engagement night. What do I tell my other brother Randy, who I promised him that I would do what he did and wait till I was thirty years old before getting married? Will he be happy or disappointed because I let him down? Or telling my cousins, who are like my sisters, that this would be a shock to them because every time they asked about are relationship I answered, “It is just great” but no further details. Or when Renae called and we talked about how she and her (now) fiancé where looking at rings, I wished so badly that I could say “I am too!”. I know that I am pre judging people judging me, but I have to put up my wall at some point. If you continually heard negative feedback wouldn’t you just stop talking? It makes it worse when I constantly hear that Coulter’s family and friends are ecstatic about our engagement. I am not a stupid girl, I want people to respect my decision, this is the right one. I am not jumping into this. Coulter and I have talked about this for months, about our financial plan….thru marriage, house, children’s college funds, or the fact that even though we are apart we will still be doing pre-marital counseling. That we both believe that marriage is a life time commitment, that you can never give up trying and working even though you feel like you have it the wall. I have found a man that makes me happy, that lets me be me, an independent woman, who feels more balanced….. I have a friend to talk to for life, a person that will always be there for me when I need it and when I don’t. That lets me try and handle things on my own, but still is there if I ask for help and doesn’t rub it in and make me feel like I failed when I do. Coulter and I have decided to spend the rest of our lives together….. So here it is, here is my cowardly post of my joyous engagement. If you choose to wish us well, by all means go right ahead, however, those of you naysayer’s out there who have nothing better to say then nasty things, please keep them to yourself. I love you all and hope that you can as happy for me as I am! As for wedding information, we pretty much have the whole thing planed except for the two most important things…. a date and place. Due to Mr. Navy, we won’t know until closer till, but we are looking at December 08 or early 2009. We do have a wedding website put together (kadyandreyes.weddings.com) but we haven’t had a chance to put it together yet due tour trip. We will let you know what it is once we have more information on it.
I’m ENGAGED!!!!!!
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