Hi everyone, I would like to introduce you to a new addition to my blog. Q&A with KK!
Thanks to the help of VIP in the 303, I will now be answering submitted questions on relationships, sex and dating! All Q&A will be posted under the category “Q&A with KK”. As a reminder, please see the “future possibilities” tab for more details.
Question:
Is it cheating if your man talks to two girls on the internet? Because my man doesn’t think that it is cheating. Also, how many times a week or month is it normal to have sex. I feel like my man is losing interest!
Answer:
Well, these are two very broad questions, which means I am only able to answer them in a broad manner. As for talking on the internet with member of the opposite sex, this is not cheating unless their typing has turned from innocent conversation to naughty flirting. I have many friends of the opposite sex however I would never do anything with them that my partner might find threatening. I always openly communicate with my partner so there is no fear of me hiding anything to ever bring on the thought of me cheating. As for a sex quota, even with all the studies and surveys out there, there is no normality when it comes to sex. This is different for every person and every couple, depending on personal preferences, relationships status and time availability.
Now before you go wasting your energy trying 25 of “The 101 ways to turn him on”; What I can tell you is, you don’t sound happy or fulfilled in your current relationship and it’s time for you to sit down and talk with your partner and address some of these issues that are bothering you. Now, this doesn’t mean attacking him out of the blue, already angry and hyped up on adrenaline. You need to find a time to talk in a calm manner, let him know how you are feeling. Making sure to use all “I” statements, never accusatory “You” statements. Examples – “it hurts ME when…” or “I feel like…” instead of “YOU are cheating…” or “YOU never have sex with me …” Make sense? And if it still isn’t working, try couples counseling (plenty in the Denver metro area) or take a look inside yourself and ask if you are benefiting from the relationship?
No matter what the outcome, I wish you the best of luck! And if you have any additional questions or want suggestions on where to find a therapist or counselor, don’t hesitate to contact me at Kristen@KristenKady.com
*please note that the question was edited to remove slang