I can’t believe that it has been over a month since I last updated my blog, especially since there are so many changes since then. There has been some internal debating on what direction to go with my writing so right now it is just too scattered to post. While I have been lacking here, I have been updating my Twitter, so feel free to stop by for random personal updates until I get my thoughts in order.
In the mean time, I thought I would post a couple of dating articles that I liked to kind of set the mood for future posts.
For the ladies
6 WAYS TO APPROACH A MAN
by Paul Brunson
I wish I could tell you there was one secret line to instantly lock in that Lance Gross-looking brotha, but there isn’t. I’ve never seen a one liner work for everyone. As a matter of fact, I can’t tell you I’ve seen a particular approach work for everyone (although the damsel in distress ranks high as a universally effective approach). So, if there are no exact words or methods of approaching, am I saying to just jump out there with no strategy? Of course not — tactics without strategy is the noise before defeat (Sun-Tzu).
What I have witnessed as effective strategy lies within the elements of the approach, which are no different for a woman approaching a man as they are for a man approaching a woman – we basically react to the same stimuli. What follows is from my observations, reading, and experiences with clients. I’ve distilled the strategy to 6 rules, that when applied collectively, will optimize your approach.
Rule 1: Be Confident
This is easier said than done, but the good news is that everyone has the ability to convey confidence (see Confidence Is Sexy: 10 Ways To Show It). Whenever you approach someone, know that your confidence (or lack thereof) will reach him before your perfume hits their nostrils or your words vibrate through their ears. continue reading here…
FINDING TRUE LOVE WHEN YOU HATE TO DATE
Most singles complain about dating but there are some real benefits to getting out there.
By Debi Berndt
There are some people who LOVE to date. They enjoy meeting new people and soak up the attention from the opposite sex. These singles are constantly on dating sites looking for their next fling or trolling the bars for the next Mr. or Ms. Right Now. Most of you probably don’t fall into that category. Whether you have been on the dating circuit for a while or have refused to participate at all, if you hate to date you may need to open your eyes to a new way of looking at this necessary exercise on the path to true love.
Regardless of what type of dater you are – a non-dater or serial dater – if you hate to date, you are missing out on a major relationship learning experience. From the point you email a person online or have a random conversation in a social setting, you have begun a relationship. Now, some of these experiences last a few minutes, some weeks and longer but you can learn a lot about yourself and how you handle yourself with the opposite sex through even the shortest of encounters.
Here are some benefits to dating:
1. Getting outside your comfort zone. When you refuse to date you are depriving yourself of an incredible growth opportunity. You push beyond old boundaries that kept love away in the past when you face your fears of rejection and being loved. If you don’t date, you will simply kick the can down the road avoiding interaction with the potential mates and make excuses for why you are still single.
2. Building Your Love Muscle. I know, this sounds a little kinky for those with dirty minds, but I am talking about opening your heart muscle. Dating can help you work out the kinks in your communication skills so that you are prepared for the real thing when it happens. You don’t want to go cold turkey into a dream relationship without a little preparatory practice.
3. Learning to let go of results. continue reading here…